They had to postpone the best day of their life not just once, twice or three times, but four times. Now couples who have been forced to repeatedly change their wedding plans due to changed coronavirus measures have reported that they are “broken and exhausted” as the wedding industry is not supported by the government.
According to regulations for England’s second national lockdown this week, weddings are only allowed to take place if one of those getting married is seriously ill and is unlikely to recover. These ceremonies will be limited to six people, so thousands more couples will strive to rearrange their wedding.
“It’s just a farce now, I’ve stopped telling people the date,” said Shelley Watson. She and her fiancé Martin Love spent nearly three years planning their dream forest wedding, which they have had to postpone four times since March.
The spring lockdown lifted their May schedule, and then travel restrictions prevented Martin’s family from flying over for the new October date. They gave up on 2020 altogether and looked to May next year, although that didn’t work either due to a changed schedule for school holidays.
“Our fourth and final appointment is August 29th next year,” said Watson. They considered fleeing, “but we have to think about all the costs that have already run out – we have a three-tier cake, band, catering and venue. I’ve changed that four times, I definitely want to have it. “
It was emotional and unsettling to have taken some years of planning out of their hands, Watson said. “You feel guilty that there is much worse in the world, but it was so frustrating.”
Lara Marsden and her partner, who have had to postpone their ceremony for the fourth time in less than seven months, are hoping to get married in December after a “rollercoaster ride” of a year.
They canceled and rearranged their wedding twice, panicking over the changing restrictions. Then, with the rule of six, local locks and the tier system, “it felt like a huge, abstract thing that we had no control over,” Marsden said. “It took away the joy. At that point we just wanted to be married. Anything else would be a bonus. “
They retired to a small wedding at the registry office and felt good about their decision – until the time of the second lockdown resulted in it being postponed by 10 days as their termination was not made clear in time. They have now pushed themselves back to mid-December if they hope to be back in Tier 2.
“It’s all relative, but the constant feeling of being in limbo, at the mercy of a consistently incompetent government, and not even finding the bare way to marry the woman I love is quite demoralizing and frustrating.” Marsden said.
“Whatever restrictions apply in December, we just keep going. It feels unromantic, but let’s just do it now. We just want this piece of paper to get our lives going. “
Annabel Abercrombie and her partner have to postpone their wedding for the third time since March. After postponing their April wedding to October, they rescheduled again to August 2021 due to a lack of certainty. They hoped it would be lucky for the third time, but their plans were once again upset when their chosen venue – a 500 -year-old – was elected, listed country house – went into liquidation.
“We’re totally broken and exhausted,” said Abercrombie. But while they lost three wedding anniversaries and a venue had hesitated to organize something new, she insisted that this was bigger than just the couple left in suspension and she was determined to re-book for her suppliers.
Had her venue been given a little more support, maybe it would have made it, she said. “I know they have business for the future because we tried to get another date. But weddings take so long to be planned and people keep shifting so they have a ton of money, just not right now. It’s really annoying that the industry has just been forgotten when it comes to so many jobs and livelihoods. “